Ways for Parents to Help Their Children Build Self-Esteem
Children with healthy self-esteem are more likely to feel well-adjusted and accepted by their peers. They also tend to be more confident, proud of their achievements, and motivated to achieve their goals.
As children age, their sense of self-esteem continues to grow and develop. However, some children may have a difficult time feeling confident in themselves. This is where parents can play a vital role. By making changes to their behavior, parents can help their children build more self-esteem.
Accept Unconditionally
Children need to feel loved and accepted for who they are, unconditionally. This means accepting their flaws and mistakes, as well as their strengths. It is important to praise your child’s efforts, not just their achievements. When your child does something well, focus on the effort they put in, rather than the outcome. For example, you might say, “I’m proud of you for working so hard on that math problem.”
Encourage to Try New Things
It is also important to encourage your child to try new things. Stepping outside of one’s comfort zone can be scary, but it’s an important way to learn and grow. When your child tries something new, even if they don’t succeed, be sure to praise their courage and effort.
Help your child set realistic goals. When children set goals that are too difficult to achieve, they’re likely to feel disappointed and discouraged. Help your child set goals that are challenging but achievable, and offer support and encouragement as they work towards their goals.
Teach About Failure
Teach your child about failure. Everyone fails at some point in their lives. It’s important for children to learn that failure is a normal part of life and that it doesn’t mean they’re not good enough. Help your child learn from their failures and use them as opportunities to grow.
On a similar note, it is important to be patient with your child as they grow and build their self-esteem. Everyone has bad days and makes mistakes. Avoid criticizing your child too much or using harsh words that can be more discouraging than helpful.
Be Healthy Role Models
Be a good role model. Children learn by watching the adults in their lives. If you want your child to have high self-esteem, model the behavior you want to see in them. Be confident in your own abilities and accomplishments, and be supportive of your child’s efforts.
Finally, talk to your child about self-esteem. Help your child understand what self-esteem is and why it’s important. Talk to them about the different things that can affect self-esteem, such as positive and negative experiences, feedback from others, and their own thoughts and feelings.
Building self-esteem is an ongoing process. It takes time, effort, and patience. But it is one of the most important things that you can help your child develop. If you have concerns about your child’s self-esteem, talk to a mental health professional. We can help you assess your child’s self-esteem and develop strategies to help them build a healthy sense of self-worth.
Matthew A. Webster, MA, MS, ED.D, LPC
Martin Counseling, PLLC in Katy, TX.
Dr. Matt Webster is a professional educator, nutritionist, and therapist located in the Houston, Texas area. He specializes in couples therapy, sexuality, and maladaptive eating patterns with a focus on the role of nutrition. More About Matt >>
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